tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3118475747197945261.post2909956061767833008..comments2023-07-21T03:59:15.879-07:00Comments on shoelessmommy: Not Such a Simple Questionshoeless mommyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08040777175972273451noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3118475747197945261.post-45197161716185906992010-07-20T13:06:09.381-07:002010-07-20T13:06:09.381-07:00I know two people that have recently lost babies; ...I know two people that have recently lost babies; one a twin and the other a second child, both before birth. My niece who lost one of the twins and has an older daughter will say usually say 2 when asked, but will tell some people 3 and explain about the baby boy she lost. My sister-in-law will say 2, one in heaven. She is very willing to talk about it, and even had her baby girl's footprints and name tattooed on her arm. She always refers to her as her angel. It doesn't make me uncomfortable to hear these things, just sad. For her, she doesn't want her little one to be forgotten. <br /><br />I guess it just depends on how you feel that day, right? You can always say 2 and later on down the road share that your third is in heaven. Or if you're feeling emotionally strong, say 3 and one is in heaven. I don't think there's anything wrong with that. There's no right or wrong answer, because it's a personal thing. Don't worry about making the other person feel uncomfortable. You can't control other people's feelings and reactions, only your own. <br /><br />I am sorry to hear about your little guy, shoeless mommy. (You can't see me but I'm not looking on you with pity, just empathy). ♥Miz Dinahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03580865244722844834noreply@blogger.com