Yes it's true the engagement is off. Better to know now than later.... and I'm not just saying that as an empty platitude.
I'm not going to sit here and say anything negative about him because really the biggest thing is that we are just two very different people. We value different things at the core of who we are. Having such different ideals trying to come together to share a life was asking both of us to sacrifice who each of us was at our core, and that was not fair to either of us.
of course there was so much more to it, but really I don't need to air everything publicly.
So while he sure looked like sneakers in the end J. was a cross between a sneaker and a stiletto. They look pretty cool though right?