I'm not talking about just a few years here... if it was within 10 years I wouldn't so much as bat an eye. I personally don't see that as a huge age difference, though I am aware that for some that would be quite a bit. My general rule of thumb has always been that if I am going to date someone they need to be closer to my age than my moms. My mom and I are 19 years apart so 9 - 10 years older is the most I would have considered.
Here is where I tell you about my pair of Oxfords.Old fashioned, classic, and all around just a smart shoe. I work with the general public and this is where I met Oxfords. I chatted with him as I do just about anybody and found him to be quite interesting. Over about 6 months Oxfords has continued to make a point to stop by to say hello and has offered to pay for a trip to Hawaii, with the stipulation that I be willing to have dinner with him on his native island. I of course just laughed and said it would be much easier for us to have dinner in this country.
The thing is Oxfords is a lot older than me. I mean a lot. As in older than my parents... So tell me how old is too old?
I posed the question to my facebook to see what others thought and this was the response I received:
So there are some very interesting and strong opinions for sure!Some that even seemed a bit contradictory. I am pretty sure I know who JBean was talking about and that is a woman approaching 40 dating a 20 something year old. If the age gap were reversed and he was older would it have been seen as inappropriate? Or is it because in that case the woman is older so it's not as accepted?
I do see a lot of truth in having a similar life stage. After all how long could a relationship realistically be supported? At his age (not to be rude) it wouldn't be unheard of for his health to rapidly deteriorate, and where would that leave me? Going from caring for small children to caring for a senior. Just at the time I would be looking at empty nest and having time to go and enjoy life He would be reaching the end of his life. If I were the kind of girl who was just looking for a sugar daddy, this would be something I would probably pursue, but I want so much more. What kind of example would that be setting for my daughter? Though I do quite enjoy his company, oxfords is just a friend.